What do Indian men hate about Indian women?

Answer by Anonymous:

Indian Women is a big set, so I can't hate all of them in general. Also I do not hate, but there are certainly few things I despise among all the traits in Indian girls. Especially the ones that are quite ahead from rest of the women in the country due to their education, economic well being and opportunities etc. Following are the traits:

1. Self victimization: India is not by any means a safe country. Not for women and not for men. For example, I have been beaten up by goons not just once but twice in my life. I think of that as bad experience and try to remain safe. On the other hand there is a section of women if they get name called or even slightly discriminated in some way which doesn't affect their life / dignity much, will behave as if they have been living through hell in India.

2. Can't be criticized openly online: Unlike the real world, women have created a system online where they can't be criticized openly. For example, in the quoted question, both the answers are non anonymous, while in this question, almost all points have been made anonymously. For example, Indian girls will not care what their other guy friends have to say if in her opinion, but she can say "indian guys are chauvinistic, rapists, players, etc etc." In fact she will get heavily up voted for gross generalization, rant, or even abuse at times. On the other hand, if a guy says some girls are "gold diggers", "man users", "slutty", etc. etc. women will ensure that he gets the wrath of entire Quora.

3. Discriminatory (or at least vain) in marriage: For last two years, I was quite active on Indian matrimony websites to find an "educated Indian girl"and workout my life with her. My strategy was simple, I was only going to approach girls who have made their own profile, and are searching by themselves and not their parents. The truth as it got reveal Some samples (of self created profile):

exhibit A:

Girl's profile : QA Engineer in xyz software company, earning 6-8 lakhs. Educated in "my backside doesn't care" college of engineering, very attractive, fair, looks smoking hot from her picture.

Expected groom : Anybody who is working in US or Europe. (No other requirement )

Note: It is not about just this girl. There are many girls who don't have enough skills to qualify for a job in US, at the same time she is earning decently on her own in India. Since I work in this sector, I can easily claim that, more than 90% of girls in Indian IT/Software sector are _not_ looking to work hard and build their career. Most of them are looking to get lucky via marriage.

exhibit B:

Girl's profile : Student of Master of Surgery, Looks above average, Parents have their clinics,

Expected groom : IAS, IIT + IIM or Surgeon (No other requirement)

exhibit C:

Expected groom : 26-30, 5'11'' +, vegetarian, non smoker, teetotaller/social drinker, engineering graduate (preferably BE/Btech +MBA), currently placed in Mumbai. He should be rich in culture, ethics, morals, chivalry and etiquette, an environmentalist and animal lover, simple natured, with good communication skills. Plus he should earn more than 10lakhs (Actually this one is not very bad)

I have many more exhibits. And I know similar girls outside the online matrimony arena. I have no doubt in concluding that most eligible Indian girls are shamelessly selfish, vain and greedy about marriage. They look down upon those  guys who are equal to them in all respects or in fact they look down upon guys who are only slightly above them in earning potential or education background. In general a girl earning 6-8 seeks a guy earning 10-14. A girl earning 10-14 seeks, guy earning 20-25, and a girl earning 25-30 looks for a guy earning 40-60 lpa.

4. Extremely political / diplomatic :
Most Indian girls have a knack of avoiding unpleasant situations and are not straight forward. Often you will see that they will use parents, society as an excuse for breaking up, or other purposes. They have a strong sense of how they can be perceived as hypocrites and can be quite political or diplomatic (read scheming). And no such girls are not just found on Splitsvilla or Roadies. They exist right among all of us.

Conclusion :

I am purposefully cutting my answer short here. The point I am trying to make is that due to the scarcity of educated / earning girls in India, many educated and earning girls in India are much more privileged than men of equal worth and potential.

It must be noted that while most of the men who are criticized by these women as uncouthly are uneducated people doing non white collar job, or guys who are product of centuries of patriarchy, most of the regrettable women in India are from that section of the society who has opportunities and education. Just because other women with lesser rights are oppressed in India, you cannot say anything about these girls openly because, she will fuck your brains out while debating, calling you weird names, never being objective, and victimizing herself for being a girl by juxtaposing less fortunate girls than her.

Lastly I would say that not all women are like that. There are many wonderful, easy and self respecting women in various professional fields, driven by the passion of doing something / achieving something. In my personal opinion these girls are more found in non technical field. Because motivated women in technology mostly migrate.

Edit :-

I didn't imagine that this answer will get so much attention. I do not intend to go non-anonymous on this. But its surprising that even few ladies have appreciated this answer. And more than that its surprising that I have got more up votes than I normally get even when I am not anonymous. Life can be strange.

So far only one lady found my opinion unbalanced and gross generalization. I don't know, if I did that. I tried to avoid. BTW the person who asked this question wanted a mean answer 🙂

Edit -2 :-

I thought I would add little bit more based on some of the comments as well as answers that have made references to this answer.

0. Men are not clean:

This question was particularly about what is despicable among Indian women, so I described what I feel about it. May be after the recent anti rape protests women have become too difficult to bear especially the ones that are on social networks.  So I may have been tempted to give it back to them rather more aggressively. This doesn't mean that men have been good to women.

I am a staunch supporter of women reservation in education, in parliament, everywhere in India. I think we should give more opportunities for women to progress.

1. The society / culture / evolution / history argument :

A lot of people seem to justify based on biology or social pressure. I categorically deny that these arguments have any merit. Often its a case of moral turpitude. There are many girls which have been given equal or equivalent opportunities by their parents to be what they want to be. Its only after getting a degree and a job, these girls look out for men who can pay their bills etc.

If that can be justified by comparison to those ladies who never studied / had jobs then it can also be justified that its a right of a man to treat a woman like a property which can be bought by having money / house.

Edit – 3:-

This is going surprisingly strong for last two weeks. Most surprising is the fact quite a few girls have liked the answer, kudos to them. Really interested to know what is likable to girls in this answer. Also have had nasty ones. I guess criticism invites criticism, so that's ok. Some criticisms have been really mis founded. Honestly, evolutionary biology? Tit for tat? Is that a justification?

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The 7 Questions That Tell You Who You Are

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Many of the answers we’re seeking are answers we already have. We just don’t know how to access them. Understanding who you are isn’t something you stumble upon one day. It’s embedded within you; you just have to be vulnerable long enough to uncover it. Your everyday actions are shouting what you may not be conscious of.

1. What would you do with your life if you didn’t have to pay the bills? If money weren’t an issue, what would you do with your days? Would you write? Read? Sing? Whatever it is, you have to do that thing. Money is an interesting phenomenon that completely controls our everyday lives without having any purpose other than sustainability in the form of purchasing from others what we could produce and create right in our own backyards. Consider that when you’re deciding between a soulless job that will make you rich versus…

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Who would be a better Prime Minister: Rahul Gandhi or Narendra Modi?

Answer by Rahul Mahajan:

I will vote for Rahul if he can answer these questions which are on the mind of all Indian youth:

1. Other than winning the genetic lottery of being a Gandhi (nothing to do with the Mahatma Gandhi), what is your qualification for being our leader?

2. Is India a democracy or just a monarchy run by your family? Why don’t we make P Chidambaram as PM who has spent his lifetime working for party? Why you? Why you man? Who are you?

3. What can you possibly do to help Indians when you have failed to do in last 60 yrs of rule especially the last 10 years? Just look at Amethi and Rae Bareli…. these people have been dedicatedly voting for your family but …. are one of the poorest areas of India…. Oh yeah… you need them for poor roti shows on TV, right?? Staying at their one room home to show how much you care for them…. what a joke.

4. Where were you when the Indian youth were protesting and getting lathi charged in Delhi rape case agitation? Playing Playstation with your friends?We need to know if you wanna be our leader…Indians are out of their Slave Mentality.

5. I have cleared the toughest MBBS. MD entrance exams in general category studying hours and hours in complete discipline.Took loans to study ….I hv stood in long queues at Govt offices, bearing the stupidity and rudeness of Govt employees….Have you ever struggled to get anything??Have you ever stood in a queue?

6. What about the riches amassed by your Brother in Law Mr Robert Vadra? Do you think we are fools to assume that its not because of your political clout that he has become rich?Has he really worked hard to earn all that?Then he should be respected like Tata and Gates…

7. Would you throw some light on your personality? What have you achieved in your life by yourself? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Of course everybody knows about oneself…I know atleast 15 young men in my college who are much smarter, intelligent, practical, hardworking and real studs who would make a better leader than you.

8. What about the rising prices? 30% income tax,12% service tax,12 % VAT, Education cess, customs, Property tax? and still we have to pay Toll Tax ? Aren't you supposed to build roads for us? I can be sure that the income from Registration on property alone is enough to build a world class hospital in every district.
At least during Atal Bihari Vajpayees rule, every body could afford a mobile phone…and you are taking back small happiness from people's lives….Come on man, not everybody is rich like you….

9. Why cheat Anna Hazare? Your party and so called honest PM lied to the nation to bring Lokpal at Ramlila ground…later played wonderfull politics to scatter the agitation….Arvind Kejriwal is a hardworking, intelligent fellow. Do you think you can become a better leader than him? Honestly ?

10. Why do your party say "Minorities have the first right to national resources?" Why is scholarship given to Sihks, Parsis, Muslims on tax collected from Hindus even though parsis/sikhs are much richer communities…..Are not Hindus poor? Everybody is equal but it doesnt mean majority should be made secondary. Everybody has equal right on resources. Keeping the 80% majority poor is your idea of development?

11. Why does your party plays politics of Muslim appeasement openly? Why Haj subsidy? Why special quota? Why special status to minority institutes? Why dont you give a befitting reply to Pakistan? What have you done to tackle illigal immigration from Bangladesh? Batla house encounter….Obvioulsy scared of Muslim voters?

12. If Modi is held responsible for Gujarat riots, why is congress not responsible for Sikh massacre in Delhi, killing of 40,000 Hindus in Punjab militancy, Anti muslim riots in Assam??

13. Why your so called economist is unable to control prices, improve growth, check huge corruption? Are Indians not working hard enough? Why not make Swiss bank accounts public? Why not bring a bill to make foreigh bank accounts illegal like Putin has done in Russia?

I fail to guess why Montek Singh Ahluwalia  is made the Planner again and again? What has he done good to our nation? We as Indian youth think he is the biggest failure in Indian Administration….

Come live like a common Indian first for 5 years….. then we will happily make you our Prime Minister… Then we will buy your AAM AADMI slogan
Oh yeah….. What do you think of the Mango People Comment by your Jijaji?? Are we fools, buddy?

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Article on Late sitting in Office – Narayan Murthy

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Article on Late sitting in Office – Narayan Murthy

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What are some of the most realistic pencil drawings you have come across?

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Posted by on May 7, 2013 in Uncategorized


Pictures from a developer’s life

I am sure every Developer will relate to at-least one of these pictures. We all go through this and have similar expression in these situations.

Open this link to see one of the most funniest things of a Developer’s  life I have stumbled upon.

P.S – These are GIF images so you have to go to above link to see them in motion.


Here is something that you can see and have a good laugh!

This is not made by us but we found it extremely funny and felt like re-sharing it. The original post can be found here –

When I show the boss that I have finally fixed this bug

When the project manager enters the office

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When I’m deploying code to production

When I try to fix a bug at 3 in the morning

When my regex returned exactly what I expected

When a friend of mine asks me to fix his website built with Joomla

When I’m told that the module on which I have worked all the week will never be used

When the code that I have not tested on dev works perfectly in production

When the sales people announce they have sold our product to the customer

When I apply a new CSS for the…

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त्रासद सुख – The Frustrated Indian speaks…

त्रासद सुख – The Frustrated Indian speaks….

आज सुबह के हिंदी-दैनिक पर नज़र डालते हुए पीछे से कुछ तीन-चार पृष्ठ पहले के पन्ने पर यूँ ही नज़र एक  बेहद छोटे से कॉलम पर जा अटकी–“कलाम को चीन के विवि में पढ़ाने का प्रस्ताव“. कॉलम उतना ही बड़ा जितना उत्तर-प्रदेश में छपे इस अखबार ने “जोधपुर में जासूसी के आरोप में युवक बंदी” की खबर छापी थी। मज़ेदार बात ये कि यदि इस पृष्ठ पर ऐश्वर्या राय को सम्मानित करने की खबर चित्र के साथ और मीडिया के समक्ष प्रथम बार प्रस्तुत उनकी कन्या क्यों रो पड़ी इस समारोह में की हैडलाइन के साथ न छपी होती तो शायद कोने में छपी इस खबर पे नज़र ही जाना मुश्किल था। उसके विषय में अधिक जानकारी तो स्वयं इन्टरनेट पे खोजने से ही मिली। 82 वर्षीय डॉ0 कलाम को पेकिंग यूनिवर्सिटी ने ये आमंत्रण उनके आत्मनिर्भरता, मंदी और बढ़ती गरीबी पर अरबों डॉलर की कार्य-योजना के सुझाव के पश्च्यात ही दी। …….
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